Give in World of Getting

September 18, 2010

In living our lives with a posture of what can I give versus what can I get, we can more effectively and creatively work together to build new things - new ways of talking, relating to one another, new emotional experiences, new ways to respond to difficulties and struggles.

 

The other day I was listening to a talk by philosopher-activist-founder of Social Therapy Dr. Fred Newman, and in the talk he suggested an exercise that I was struck by:

Replace the term ‘give’ every time you say ‘get’ to experience the impact

  • What will I get out of this (situation, relationship, activity, etc)? turns to What can I give to this(situation, relationship, activity, etc?

  • I don’t get it/understand it  turns into I don’t give it (i.e. – I won’t give something if I don’t “get” what’s going on)

  • Getting the love you want turns to Giving the love you want

Can you think of others? 

 

Turning on its head our standard way of living that is about getting stuff for yourself—into What can I give to the world? What can we build together?

  • In living as we are taught by the culture - to be good getters - we end up not so effectively and creatively living our personal lives.  We have the same fights, get into same bad relationships or jobs, don’t reach our full potentials, and experience the same emotional reactions over and over like a broken record.
     

  • In living our lives with a posture of what can I give versus what can I get,  we can more effectively and creatively work together to build new things - new ways of talking, relating to one another, new emotional experiences, new ways to respond to difficulties and struggles.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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